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Wade Belak found dead

http://sports.yahoo.com/nhl/news;_ylt=AuaxVSeNiTViYGHF7k037645nYcB?slug=nc-nhl_depression_belak_boogaard_rypien_cotsonika_090111


Research has shown that depression is more common among elite athletes than the general population and even more common among elite athletes after retirement, according to a leading sports neurologist. NHL enforcers face a unique set of stressors.

?What I am most concerned about is, take somebody who is depressed, has a problem with depression, has admitted it, is trying to find help, and they are inundated with messages from the media that they are going to have a dementing illness and they?re doomed to a terrible fate,? Jeffrey Kutcher said Thursday near his office at the University of Michigan. ?What do you think is going to happen to people who are depressed? They?re going to be more likely to take their life.?

?The cause is debatable and arguable, and we?re doing research here. I hope in 10 and 12 years I can tell you, ?Here?s the risk of your average 10-year-old starting football getting depressed or having problems.? I can?t tell you that now. In the meantime, let?s not make assumptions we don?t know about and let?s treat the problem.?

The early symptoms of depression include trouble sleeping, trouble concentrating, loss of desire, aches and pains. They can descend into loss of self-worth and worse. Even a person who seems happy on the outside, as Belak apparently did, can be tormented on the inside and unable to cope.

?And so the only avenue starts coming around to hopelessness, which ends up saying, ?People will be better off without me. I?m in the way. I?m not doing my job. I?m not good,? ? said Eric Hipple, an outreach coordinator at the University of Michigan Depression Center. ?And so death becomes an answer.?

Elite athletes face the pressure to perform and the constant evaluation from peers, superiors and the public ? pressure they have often experienced since a young age. They experience pain ? physical pain that leads to mental pain. ?You take anybody off the street and give them 10 years of chronic pain,? Kutcher said. ?Ask them if they?re depressed.?

That leads to more drug use than the general population, in the form of pain killers. Mix in a lifestyle that includes lonely life on the road. Add alcohol and recreational drugs. Now consider the culture of machismo. ?In the sporting community, you don?t talk about anything that can be perceived as a weakness,? Hipple said. ?And so when things are happening ? you just suppress all that stuff, because nothing gets in the way of the mission, which is to be on the field of play.?

Then there is retirement. Hipple said it can be ?devastating? ? loss of identity, loss of connections to teammates, loss of support network. Said Kutcher: ?If you define your self-worth based on statistics and playing sports, and you?ve been doing that your whole life, and that?s taken away from you, you either have to be able to adjust to that or be able to replace that in some way.? The roar of the crowd is difficult to replace.

All of this is amplified for NHL enforcers. Their anguish is well-documented ? the feeling in the pits of their stomachs before a fight, that they aren?t valued as much as skill players, that they have to fight to stay in the game. Enforcers are expected to be even tougher than usual, and indeed they are often clinging to their jobs. That can make it easier to slip into depression and harder to seek help.

?It?s a tremendous burden, for sure,? Kutcher said. ?That alone is going to cause significant depression at a much higher rate than people who don?t do that job. ? Obviously the big stars are more able to be injured than the guys who might be on the cusp. It?s that chunk of people, the ones that are on the cusp, on the fringe, that probably need a little more attention.?

Suicide has struck all over sports in recent months, claiming several current and former elite athletes...pitcher Mike Flanagan, U.S. Olympic aerial skier Jeret ?Speedy? Peterson, pitcher Hideki Irabu, former Duke basketball captain Thomas Emma; Austrian
Olympic judoka Claudia Heill, former Pro Bowl safety Dave Duerson... former San Jose Sharks farmhand Tom Cavanagh.

Kutcher cautioned that monitoring the brain is more complicated than monitoring the body and that there is the lingering stigma of mental illness. Hipple said the approach has to change. Tell an athlete he needs help, and he might take it as a personal attack. Tell him someone can help him improve his performance, and he might be open to the idea.

?We?ve got to treat the first symptoms starting out instead of waiting until the symptoms are so bad this is the decision they make,? Hipple said. ?These things are normal. There are ups and downs. People do suffer from mood disorders, and if you do, they?re easily treatable. So let?s get the treatment and let?s work with it.?

















 
Corn Flake said:
Zanzibar Buck-Buck McFate said:
Corn Flake said:
Zanzibar Buck-Buck McFate said:
Maybe Wade was vulnerable and covered it up by clowning all the time.

Its what I was thinking as well.  Many a comedian will tell you that a lot of them are some of the more depressed people around. Wade could have been just the same.

It wouldn't surprise me.  Especially his penchant for self-depreciating humor ... can be a sign of a very strong, healthy personality, or else a coping mechanism for very low self-esteem.

But we'll never know unless the family decides to share information not known to the public, and it's none of our business to know if they choose not to.  My heart goes out to his family, and particularly his little girls.

True, but in light of all the disrespectful details that have been published (by the Sun and then a few other outlets), suggesting how it happened it would be nice to know a bit of the real story.  A bit of closure for the fans, in some sense.

Reminds me of David Carradine

*EDIT: I see CW has beat me to the punch
 
cw said:
I am still troubled by this and never met the guy.  :(

Yeah, I mean something about Belak. It doesn't make sense in our logic. I think it's especially true in the sense that we had good memories of watching him play. I remember I was a kid when Belak started playing with the team in 2002. Maybe 15 or so, and I'd watch the games all the time. Seeing him on OTR last month was so eerie. He seemed like an affable, funny guy who was always happy.

It's like it's some kind of error in the grand scheme of life.
 
cw said:
I am still troubled by this and never met the guy.  :(

I think I know what you mean.  I feel that way as well.  He was a very engaging individual and it was easy to somehow feel as though we did know him. 
 
cw said:
I am still troubled by this and never met the guy.  :(

Me too cw.  Watching CityNews last night with Katherine Humphreys showing some of the clips of her interviews with Wade were just so hard.  She looked like she wanted to just breakdown right there but she held it together.  I just can't stop thinking about his wife and especially his 2 little girls.  When I see pics of Wade with them, it breaks my heart that they will now grow up without their Daddy.
 
I agree that it is very hard, but it's also such a shame that he suffered alone. I wish he would have had the help he needed in time to save him.
 
Wade Belak's mother struggles with son's death
http://www.cbc.ca/sports/hockey/story/2011/09/02/sp-belak-nn.html

Heart wrenching interview
 
Still very saddened by this.  The insight into his depression is making it a little less shocking.  These deaths puts some perspective into all this....hockey is just a game.
 
Very good radio interview with Belak friend, Michael Landsberg (of TSN)
http://watch.tsn.ca/featured/#clip526419
Landsburg has spoken publicly about his own problems with depression (as I previously mentioned above). He and Wade discussed it over the last four years and after Rypiens death.
 
This is terrible, terrible news. I'm at a loss for words. What's so troubling is that he had so much to look forward to, but I guess that's in the eyes that don't matter. It's a shame he went through this battle and a tougher shame that he lost it....feel so bad for anyone, and everyone who knew him.
 
As has been publicly and privately speculated by some, Belak's death is now being considered an "accidental death" and not a suicide.

Scroll down for P.J. Stock's input:  http://ca.sports.yahoo.com/nhl/blog/puck_daddy/post/CBC-s-P-J-Stock-Wade-Belak-not-a-suicide-but-a?urn=nhl-wp11744

So very sad.  I always really liked Belak (who didn't?), and felt the tiniest extra connection to him as he got married on the same day I did 9 years ago.  We'll miss you, Wade.
 
Further to HS's post:
https://twitter.com/#!/MarkSeidel/status/109448095867207680
@MarkSeidel
Mark Seidel
Wade Belak did not kill himself and any suggestion to the contrary is simply wrong. As time passes, the truth will emerge. RIP my friend.
1 Sep via Twitter


I'm not subscribing to that assessment because like so many I don't know. I'm just pointing out it also exists.
 
Arn said:
Guy played over in the UK during the lockout and was a pleasure to be around. For an enforcer, he was one of my favourite Leafs through sheer personality and apparent selflessness he showed in a tough role.

Genuinely amazed and gutted.

Yep, I had the pleasure of watching him over here whilst he played for Coventry (not a Coventry fan but live there) & it's just a terrible shame.

Awful news.
 
I've never been a big fan of fighting in hockey. But  to those in the media saying "ah ha! This is proof that fighting must end" seems ignorant and over the top to me.

I would agree that three enforcers passing away in a span of a few months is cause for concern and needs to be seriously looked at. But I need a lot more than three deaths that may be from three totally different causes before I'd hang my hat on linking that with fighting in hockey.
 
cw said:
I've never been a big fan of fighting in hockey. But  to those in the media saying "ah ha! This is proof that fighting must end" seems ignorant and over the top to me.

I would agree that three enforcers passing away in a span of a few months is cause for concern and needs to
be seriously looked at. But I need a lot more than three
deaths that may be from three totally different causes
before I'd hang my hat on linking that with fighting in
hockey.

According to Tie Domi, former Maple Leafs' enforcer, on some serious talk concerning the untimely death of his good friend and ex-teammate Wade Belak:

http://torontosun.com/2011/09/03/domi-sadness-and-anger

"In Canada, 3,500 people die every year from suicide".  How many of them are enforcers?

"People think depression is a weakness.  It's a negative state of mind that produces chemical changes in the brain.  It's important that people realize that if they need to help".

"We have to send the message that depression can be beaten.... If you are depressed, talk to someone, don't hold it in".

"It's got nothing to do with the role.  That's (crap)", Domi said.  "All the players should be ashamed of themselves who said (Belak's death) had to do with his role (as an enforcer)".
 
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